Ufuna ntoni. Ngokwenene?
Impendulo akufuneki ichukumise nabani na.
Ngaphambi kokuba ufake olunye usukelo kwikhalenda yakho, zibuze ukuba ngumnqweno kabani. Ngowakho, okanye ngulowo sele ukwazi kakuhle ukuwenza ngathi ngowakho? Ukufuna ukuphumla, ukuba nabantu, ukuqatshelwa okanye isantya esahluke ngokupheleleyo akudingi nkcazelo enkulu yokuzithethelela.
Zibhalele imigca emithathu emifutshane: Ndifuna okungakumbi koku. Ndifuna ukunciphisa oku. Andikakulungeli ukwenza isigqibo ngale nto. Gcina umgca wokugqibela. Ukungaqiniseki kunokuba yimpendulo enyanisekileyo, kungekhona umhla wokugqibela owumiselwa ngomnye umntu.
Kubudlelwane, guqula umnqweno ube yinto omnye umntu anokuyiqonda: ixesha kunye ngaphandle kweefowuni, isigqibo esenziwe kunye, okanye urhatya uwedwa. Cela ngokucacileyo. Mamela impendulo. Ukusondelelana kushiya indawo yokuba nobabini nikhethe.
Beka umnqweno kwimeko eqhelekileyo
‘Inkululeko engakumbi’ inokuthetha izinto ezininzi. Yiba nomfanekiso wosuku oluqhelekileyo onentwana engakumbi yayo kulo. Yintoni etshintsha kuqala: ixesha ovuka ngalo, abantu obabonayo, umsebenzi owamkelayo, okanye iyure ekungekho mntu ukuyicwangcisele yona? Imeko ethile ikunika into onokuyikhetha ngaphandle kokufuna ubomi obutsha ngokupheleleyo.
Umzekelo, ‘Ndifuna ubomi bokunxulumana nabantu obahlukileyo’ kunokuba ‘Ndifuna urhatya olunye kule nyanga apho ndikhetha indawo ndize ndimke ngexesha elindifaneleyo.’ Usenokufuna utshintsho olukhulu. Indlela encinane ikunceda ubone eyona nxalenye ibalulekileyo: ukukhetha, ukuba nabantu, okanye indlela elula yokubuyela ekhaya.
Guqula umnqweno ube sisicelo esicacileyo
Yahlula oko unokuzilungiselela kona noko kudinga imvume yomnye umntu. ‘Ndingakonwabela ukutya isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye ngaphandle kweefowuni zethu ngoLwesihlanu’ kulula ukuxoxa ngako kunokuthi ‘Awukhe undinike ngqalelo yaneleyo.’ Xela ixesha olifunayo, uze ushiye indawo ka-ewe, hayi, okanye elinye icebiso.
Unokugqiba nokuba umnqweno udinga ixesha. Bhala oko kungakacaci uze ukhethe indlela encinane yokufunda ngakumbi: zama umsebenzi othile kube kanye, zibekele imva kwemini engacwangciswanga, okanye ubuze ukuba ulungiselelo oluthile luya kubandakanya ntoni. Emva koko, gcina, tshintsha okanye ubeke ingcinga ecaleni. Ukuzama into akukunyanzeli ukuba uyenze inxalenye yobuwena.
- Bhala umnqweno omnye onyanisekileyo.
- Wahlule koko kulindelwe kuwe.
- Khetha inyathelo elincinane elilandelayo.
Iphepha lakho.
Bhala imigca embalwa, uyigcine apha okanye ukhuphele ikopi. Amanqaku akho awathunyelwa kuthi. Ukuwagcina kuwabeka kwesi sikhangeli, apho nabani na osebenzisa esi sikhangeli anokuwabona khona. Esi ayisosicelo sokujoyina.